I haven’t posted in here in a while and I’m sorry for that! I was seduced by other social media platforms, graduated my graduate program, wrote some stuff, sold some stuff, won some stuff, been moving around a bit, met many people, said goodbye to a lot of others, in short: Life. Happened.
I will be reviving this blog, maybe expanding the scope of it to include so many of the things that interest me beyond writing and eating. And I’m going to start using this to host the work of other people who I admire and whose viewpoints I would like to see in the world. I don’t know where this journey will take me. I’m not sure if I’ll let the comments section be a thing—I like the idea of having a “conversation” with people, but, also, is that really what’s happening in comments, and, also, you should post on your own page and link to me and we can have some sort of conversation in spaces that benefit us because this shouldn’t be a one-way street where I aggregate the thoughts and feelings of other people or vice versa? These are the things I’m thinking about….
OK, I’m going to work on a screenplay I wrote a while back that I let sit because I felt I wasn’t able to solve the problems. ‘Lo and behold, most of the problems are solved. I am doing a nip-tuck and then I’m going to see what is what. Yippee for persistence!
Everyone seems so close and friendly on the internet that when the trolls strike it’s like, what?!?!? So, hello friend/frenemy. I’ll be back soon.
I’m working very hard to get my thesis done, and as the rain falls outside of this window next to my shoulder, I wonder what I will do when the book is finished. I know I’m supposed to look for an agent, find a way to put this book on the market, and then sail off into the sunset (or is that sunrise?) of Publishing Glory. However, I find myself wanting to suspend this period of time when I’m only responsible for my book, and I can sit around in sweatpants with my hair uncombed, and anticipate nothing but five months of glorious, glorious me time.
Oh, and Valentine’s Day is coming up. Oy.
So, I wrote this play called Under Some Other Heaven, which might be a little TMI about some things that happened to me, but that will hopefully, some day, be TMI about what happened to a lot of women during the period of Japanese Imperial expansion at the turn of the 20th Century and how memory and history are passed down to us. I tried to use every bit of craft I’ve gleaned from working with some of the finest writers, actors, comedians and directors, literally in the world. It has been a journey and I’m only just beginning.
I volunteer my time advocating for the arts and finally decided to advocate for myself. Shocker! It’s hard to ask for money to take care of your own projects. Wow. Didn’t expect that feeling. But I was encouraged by a dear friend of mine to put this campaign up and no matter how it turns out I want to thank him, and you, for even checking this out.
memorialize, memorialise [mɪˈmɔːrɪəˌlaɪz]vb (tr)
1. to honour or commemorate
2. to present or address a memorial to
I am seven, or perhaps six. We are driving home with American flags on plastic sticks, the sharpened ends threatening eyes and cheeks as we wave them at one another. The day has been cold, overcast, filled with greasy hotdogs and soda pop and crowds of families just like ours: mothers herding children through throngs of revelers, fathers huddled together, laughing the nervous laughs of people meeting one another for the first time at a wake. The details of that day escape me, I remember isolated snips: my fingers and toes were cold, my nose stuffed and runny; I remember feeling puffed up with the joy of running, stomach bursting with junk food; I remember the not-knowing why we were at a place, the blur of emotions and actions acceptable to children who operate moment-to-moment with no anticipation for the shape of a thing, the day, the people around you.
My father drives in front of me, I lower the window and furl my hand around my puckered lips, blow my trumpet into the air rushing passed. He glares at me in the sideview mirror. His commands for me to stop turn to something like pleas. My mother pinches me until I put my hand back in my lap, gripping the end of my flag. She tells my father to pull the car over. When he does, she takes me and my sisters to the bathroom.
We leave my father alone in the car.
Memorial Day exists in two planes for me, and I’ll venture to say for everyone associated with the military. On the one hand, it’s joyful: an extra day out of the work week, a day for BBQ, water sports, the beginning of summer vacations, hot weather, friends and family time. On the other, especially if you grew up with a vet or active service member, today is a lodestone for all the values you’ve been taught: honor, trust, fidelity, loyalty, sacrifice, duty, selflessness, perseverance, love. This day for me is foil on metal fillings, sugar on my tongue, all at once.
Personally, I avoid all the jingoistic flag wavers crowing about “freedom isn’t free”–the cost of military service on those serving, their families, and loved ones, isn’t reciprocated in thank yous or acknowledgments, or free beers at the end of May–living the values that our country was founded on, that military service aspires to, is what the lives of our service men and women are laid down for, not admonitions that other countries don’t enjoy our rights, privileges and entitlements. Those who died in service did so hoping that their deaths, and therefore their lives, that their sacrifice, has meaning and import. That it changes things. Matters. These lives cut short for country carry with them the obligation that we remember them through our lives, with our lives. That we serve their memories by enacting the highest ideals that lead to their deaths. Every. Day.
Bigotry, hate, discrimination, lack of charity, refusing to fight for and defend equality… I could go on, but our society, however much “freedom” we lay claim to, is far from meeting the ideals I was raised with, the work we do to honor our dead is very much ahead of us. I chose not to serve, and I don’t encourage or discourage service to others, I believe that choosing military life is something that is incredibly personal, and requires a great deal of commitment and sacrifice, and I wouldn’t want to get any threatening calls from Boot Camp, cursing my name. I do, however, strive to always live the values I was taught as a child, the ones that were shown, spoken, lived for me through my father’s example. He is no saint. Far from it. I am proud of him for the work he’s done wrestling with the demons his service in Vietnam brought him, and I have compassion for those challenges he hasn’t overcome. That’s part of what I remember on Memorial Day, too: the man my father became as a result of his service in the Marine Corps.
Because I’m a military brat, Taps is one of my favorite songs. The long drawn out notes of the opening, the lone bugler. I remember it playing late at night as the local TV stations ran it under images of a sun-spangled American flag flapping in a high wind; I remember it at Memorial Day commemorations as that solemn moment when hats were doffed, heads were lowered, and fists covered hearts; I remember it as forbidden notes not to be sounded in my father’s presence. The emotions that it brings out in me have evolved over the years. When I was a kid, those 24 bars gave me a strong sense of connection to my father, to the values that he always spoke of to us, to this notion that we belonged, by virtue of his service, to a tradition that was bigger, nobler, and grander than other families. As an adult, the sound of them fills me with sadness, regret, loss, pride, and duty: remembering is the work of the living, and it must be done.
The song itself was meant to let soldiers know that the day was ended, watch was set, and it was lights out. It came to be used for funeral services in place of cannon fire because the Civil War battle lines were drawn so closely, commanders didn’t want to risk breaking a ceasefire when honoring their dead. It’s known as Taps, but also as Day Is Done. Either one is fitting for a service member whose final duty has ended.
On this Memorial Day, I hope the families of those who’ve given their lives in service know that, at least this Marine’s daughter, is remembering their fallen and sharing their grief, pride and duty through my memories, life and prayers.
Day is done, gone the sun,
From the hills, from the lake,
From the sky.
All is well, safely rest,
God is nigh.
Go to sleep, peaceful sleep,
May the soldier or sailor,
On the land or the deep,
Safe in sleep.
Love, good night, Must thou go,
When the day, And the night
Need thee so?
All is well. Speedeth all
To their rest.
Fades the light; And afar
Goeth day, And the stars
Fare thee well; Day has gone,
Night is on.
Thanks and praise, For our days,
‘Neath the sun, Neath the stars,
‘Neath the sky,
As we go, This we know,
God is nigh.
Ms. Whitney Houston. Damn. She was just a baby. I have so many good times and rough times that were made better through her art. Her struggles were incomprehensible to me, but I prayed for her. Especially after that interview with Barbara Walters that felt like Blaxploitation. To honor the memory of her that I want to tell my children about, I have to go all the way back, back, back… to the 80s. I was a young girl living in Portland, Oregon. Black, Japanese in a city that had so few of either being both put me in population of exactly four families. At the time, I didn’t realize I was looking for a role model, but when I heard the lyrics to this song, I realized I could be my own role model and, to this day, when I’m struggling to make my way as an artist in a world that sometimes makes me feel like I have an audience of about 20 (Thank God for the rise of Blasian culture!), I still hum this song to myself. Thanks, Whitney. I hope you are indeed, resting. In Peace.
Just a quick post to commemorate the loss of Heavy D. Man, we already miss you. Your music was the sound of my youth. I grooved to you late at night, drunk off my a$$ at my first “grown-up” college parties. Later, when I quit film school and moved to Hollywood to try my hand at a film career, you were one of the first celebrities I ever met… at a party… where you stomped on my peeptoe sandals. And apologized like a gentleman. You even called me “baby girl”. Many of my friends and colleagues had friendships with you, so I would hear about you in passing, always with positive warm thoughts.
As for myself, that encounter with you was thanks to Chris Tucker. He brought in this video when the film I was working on (my first ever job on a real live movie set that was about to implode after the director parted ways with the studio four weeks before production start) was in desperate need of a helmer. I remembered the song, but those long dark days in the Sterling Memorial Library had left me ignorant of music video history. So, you also saved my job… and that job started my career.
So, I miss your music. Thanks for the memories and the leg up. And, always, D, I got nuttin’ but love for you, honey.
When will MSNBC and its advertisers stop giving this asshat a platform for his bigoted BS? He uses his age as a cover to get away with referring to the President as Al Sharpton’s “boy”, now this with the “liberal plantation” metaphor. Plantation? Really? That old chestnut needs to retired. Just like Pat.
And just in case it sounds like I’m piling on against Grampa, here’s another lengthy example that the man hasn’t lost his faculties, he’s just a bigot.
First, America has been the best country on earth for black folks. It was here that 600,000 black people, brought from Africa in slave ships, grew into a community of 40 million, were introduced to Christian salvation, and reached the greatest levels of freedom and prosperity blacks have ever known.
Wright ought to go down on his knees and thank God he is an American.
Second, no people anywhere has done more to lift up blacks than white Americans. Untold trillions have been spent since the ’60s on welfare, food stamps, rent supplements, Section 8 housing, Pell grants, student loans, legal services, Medicaid, Earned Income Tax Credits and poverty programs designed to bring the African-American community into the mainstream.
Governments, businesses and colleges have engaged in discrimination against white folks — with affirmative action, contract set-asides and quotas — to advance black applicants over white applicants.
Churches, foundations, civic groups, schools and individuals all over America have donated time and money to support soup kitchens, adult education, day care, retirement and nursing homes for blacks.
We hear the grievances. Where is the gratitude?